Procrastination and Avoidance

I have come to learn that I use procrastination and avoidance as non verbal queues for no thank you and no.

My bedroom closet needs to be cleaned out, I am in the process of cleaning it out is what I say.. The truth is I am NOT making an effort to clean the closet because I don't want to. simple. I have other things I would rather do...
Write, read, listen to music, eat, sleep, cook, go for a walk or ride... I could go on and on but not clean. Then it came to me procrastination and avoidance were excuses and excuses are built from weakness and fears....

I must place my weakness and fears aside to gain what is really mine. Submission is doing what I know is right even when I dont want to and there is no one around to see...

Special day..A new year

Today is my birthday. I am 34. When I was 24 I dreaded this day. It felt like 34 was 184. I am not sure why but 10 years ago today seemed like a huge difference Today I am 34 and I am so happy. Today I am single, divorced, a mother of 3, struggling financially, but insightful and peaceful.

I know me better then I have ever known myself. I am deeply aware of myself and it is both scary and exciting.

Breaking old habits and gaining new ones.

My love language (click the link take the test) is quality time. For the past week my dearest friends have showered me with the most important thing to me.. their time. I did not receive a monetary gift and I am SO content with that. What I have if far more important memories and time with them. I have talked, listened, shared, loved and connected with people that I love an respect. I have discovered yet another facet of me and it is great.

I have the capacity to heal, to learn endless, to grow, give, forgive, share, engage, evolve, achieve, rise, fall, and rise again. Life is a challenge and worth every moment!

Let the new year bring me joy, endless achievements, challenges and growth. I am ready!

"Expectation is the root of all heartache" WS.. Or so he said

"Expectation is the root of all heartache" WS


I read this quote a while ago and I was a bit ambivalent about it.


I guess a part of me didn't understand it at first. My thought process began with I have expectations for myself! If I don't have expectations how do I achieve goals?


Then I began to pounder what is the difference between goals and expectations?

• A goal is- the result or achievement toward which effort is directed;aim; end.

• Expectation is - the act or state of looking forward or anticipating.

Then I realized I need to spend more time mastering the english language. I have a problem communicating because I often do not understand exactly what is being said. 


Expectation is the root of all heartaches. Why because the act of looking forward to or anticipation is not going to help me achieve anything. Hard work, the grind, the failures, the dedication, getting back up. That is what moves me. So I finally understand the quote.

Do I seek success or simply do what I love?

I saw a twitter post today by "Rich Cruse Photo ‏@Oprah Did you seek success or simply to do what you love?"


I thought this would be a wonderful conversation to have with myself. 


I use to do what I thought I needed to do. When I was younger I was told that I needed to have a job and go to work. It was explained to me that this was life. People went to high school, got a job preferably(think postal, military) a good job, worked and retired. 


I dare to think outside the box. I do not hold the idea of a job being the only way. I believe that to be neither truth or fact instead I see a job as one of an infinite about of choices to sustain oneself. 


I have worked my share of jobs, I have run my share of small business. I have found what I needed in them all. Now I know what I desire.


My desire is to be my own boss. I have to take the steps to do that. And then this question came to me.


"Do I seek success or simply do what I love?" My answer is both. 


I find success in seeking the things that I love.  Doing what I love is how I defined my success..
 #seekingsuccessinlove

The impossible into possible

I recently began to work out again. This is not my first time around this rodeo but it will be my last. I have finally changed my thoughts and now my actions can follow.

The epiphany that began a few weeks ago has continued in every aspect of my life.  My mind, body, and soul must all be in sync.

I know believe the impossible is possible.. And I believe that because I began the journey with the 5steps.

1. There is simply yes or no
2. I do less thinking more doing.
3. I have expectations for myself every day. I make a list of what I expect of myself, I hold myself accountable.
4. I mark every step and every achievement in writing.
5. I make no excuses.

And then it came to me!

Motivational coach/ speaker

Profound thanks