Explanations are accepted excuses.

The more I spend simplifying my life and actions I find that I am so much clearer on my goals and expectations of self.

I live in a simple world I have created. Its called Simplicity. Its a place where In the absence of YES every thing else is NO. There is simplicity found in ANYthing other then Yes and its other synonyms being and equals  no and all of its varying synonyms.

Once I was willing to accept yes and no I feel like there was a lot of weight lifted from my mind. I no longer had to guess and wonder what was being said. I simply listen for yes and no. Math became simpler to me. Why because for instance if I want to make increments of 5 there are only a few ways to do that. If I want to keep it simple all I have to remember is the combinations and if they are not present then the answer is no.

In dealing with people I am learning to listen carefully to what is being said. I don't always need explanations as they are just accepted ways of making excuses for no's. I am ok with simple yes or no. If there is additional explanations needed then ok but that is not always the case and I think I forgot that I have control of self and what emerges from my mouth and my emotions. I make decisions every moment of every day even if it is unconscious. I am actively becoming more away of my explanations and reasoning behind my actions and what I have found is that end the end they are all fear based excuses, no.

I will say this over and over again.

I have a 50/50 chance of Success/Acceptance/YES by simply asking/acting/doing. While if I do nothing I have a 100% chance of Failure/NO/Rejection.

When I make things this simple I cant not find any reason for me to not try. That is simple math you take the chance that affords you the higher odds.. I am simplifying my life with continued practice.

I have many desires and goals each one of them I am pursuing in some form or fashion if they are important. There is nothing between yes and no. There is nothing between off and on. There is nothing between action and inaction.

In love and life I choose YES. I do not allow mine or anyone elses explanations of accepted excuses stop me from my YES.

The beginning of a new journey

Today is the eve of the beginning of a era for me. For the past 10 years I have been married, tonight 12pm I will no longer be married. Tomorrow as of 12:01 I will consider myself single after 11 years.
It feels surreal. I use to be very upset and anxious about this date, but not anymore.

I see this as the beginning of a new journey. The opportunity for me to take my lessons learned and put them to particle use. I separated on Aug 12th 2009, I filed for a divorce Dec 2011, it is now June 27th 2012 and I am single. I have experienced disappointments, heart ache, discovery, growth, and change. I am so blessed to see myself though to the end as a journey that has led to another bend in the road.

My life is wonderful I have experienced my serious of unfortunate events but through it all I am so happy on the other side of this.

There were plenty of times when I was not sure if I could breath another moment. There were times when I was not sure how I would pay my bills to buy food, there were even more days when I just couldn't think. And then I took responsibility for my actions, my self, my behaviors and my lack of behaviors.

I stopped hurting when I stopped feeling hurt. I stopped waiting on my happiness and I went out and found it. Happiness is within my reach so I stretched until I reached it.

Every day is yes. I wake up and choose yes or no. I keep it simple, yes or no. 

Do I seek success or simply do what I love?

I saw a twitter post today by "Rich Cruse Photo ‏@Oprah Did you seek success or simply to do what you love?"


I thought this would be a wonderful conversation to have with myself. 


I use to do what I thought I needed to do. When I was younger I was told that I needed to have a job and go to work. It was explained to me that this was life. People went to high school, got a job preferably(think postal, military) a good job, worked and retired. 


I dare to think outside the box. I do not hold the idea of a job being the only way. I believe that to be neither truth or fact instead I see a job as one of an infinite about of choices to sustain oneself. 


I have worked my share of jobs, I have run my share of small business. I have found what I needed in them all. Now I know what I desire.


My desire is to be my own boss. I have to take the steps to do that. And then this question came to me.


"Do I seek success or simply do what I love?" My answer is both. 


I find success in seeking the things that I love.  Doing what I love is how I defined my success..
 #seekingsuccessinlove

The impossible into possible

I recently began to work out again. This is not my first time around this rodeo but it will be my last. I have finally changed my thoughts and now my actions can follow.

The epiphany that began a few weeks ago has continued in every aspect of my life.  My mind, body, and soul must all be in sync.

I know believe the impossible is possible.. And I believe that because I began the journey with the 5steps.

1. There is simply yes or no
2. I do less thinking more doing.
3. I have expectations for myself every day. I make a list of what I expect of myself, I hold myself accountable.
4. I mark every step and every achievement in writing.
5. I make no excuses.

And then it came to me!

Motivational coach/ speaker

Profound thanks