Update! A chance meeting**** Update

We met I later said no thank you. The end...

Simple :)

Explanations are accepted excuses.

The more I spend simplifying my life and actions I find that I am so much clearer on my goals and expectations of self.

I live in a simple world I have created. Its called Simplicity. Its a place where In the absence of YES every thing else is NO. There is simplicity found in ANYthing other then Yes and its other synonyms being and equals  no and all of its varying synonyms.

Once I was willing to accept yes and no I feel like there was a lot of weight lifted from my mind. I no longer had to guess and wonder what was being said. I simply listen for yes and no. Math became simpler to me. Why because for instance if I want to make increments of 5 there are only a few ways to do that. If I want to keep it simple all I have to remember is the combinations and if they are not present then the answer is no.

In dealing with people I am learning to listen carefully to what is being said. I don't always need explanations as they are just accepted ways of making excuses for no's. I am ok with simple yes or no. If there is additional explanations needed then ok but that is not always the case and I think I forgot that I have control of self and what emerges from my mouth and my emotions. I make decisions every moment of every day even if it is unconscious. I am actively becoming more away of my explanations and reasoning behind my actions and what I have found is that end the end they are all fear based excuses, no.

I will say this over and over again.

I have a 50/50 chance of Success/Acceptance/YES by simply asking/acting/doing. While if I do nothing I have a 100% chance of Failure/NO/Rejection.

When I make things this simple I cant not find any reason for me to not try. That is simple math you take the chance that affords you the higher odds.. I am simplifying my life with continued practice.

I have many desires and goals each one of them I am pursuing in some form or fashion if they are important. There is nothing between yes and no. There is nothing between off and on. There is nothing between action and inaction.

In love and life I choose YES. I do not allow mine or anyone elses explanations of accepted excuses stop me from my YES.

The impossible into possible

I recently began to work out again. This is not my first time around this rodeo but it will be my last. I have finally changed my thoughts and now my actions can follow.

The epiphany that began a few weeks ago has continued in every aspect of my life.  My mind, body, and soul must all be in sync.

I know believe the impossible is possible.. And I believe that because I began the journey with the 5steps.

1. There is simply yes or no
2. I do less thinking more doing.
3. I have expectations for myself every day. I make a list of what I expect of myself, I hold myself accountable.
4. I mark every step and every achievement in writing.
5. I make no excuses.

And then it came to me!

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Profound thanks

HEAR VERSES LISTEN

I recently had I would describe as a heated verbal confrontation with a person in my life. The topic of the argument is not really relevant. What is relevant to me is the exchange and why it happened, but I have to also understand where others are coming from so here is my blather.

When I am communicating I have to recognize that I can make people feel uncomfortable due to my ability to listen and hear.

Listen-to give attention with the ear; attend closely for the purpose of hearing; give ear.

to pay attention; heed; obey (often followed by to ): Children don't always listen to their parents.

Hear-to perceive by the ear: Didn't you hear the doorbell?

to listen with favor, assent, or compliance (often followed by of ): I will not hear of your going.

I find it incredibly hard to have a person tell me I am not listening to them. I live and work in a world that requires me to give a great amount of energy and time to listen and hear what is conveyed... What every your getting from me is my perception of what I am receiving. I am just conveying it back.. much like a reflection on a mirror.. Believe me I am not the only one that does this. What usually happens is that we mirror what we see and have no IDEA why we keep getting into the same or similar situations... Perhaps the person, place, situation is a reflection of you.

Change you and the reflection will change as well. In the end listen and hear is the point not verses..

How did naive become a 3 letter word?

I am naive. Why do I have to pretend I know it all.. Do I not miss out on valuable lessons in my pretense or what I would define as a lie..

I do not know a lot. I am in a constant state of evaluation and evolution. I am always questioning what I do and why I do it. I change I want my life to grow and reflect those changes.

To say I am naive is not to say that I do not know things. I know what I know but that is not as  important when in discovery of new things. I want to be open to acceptance, hearing, loving, trying, doing instead of living in my past.

Naive is not a 3 letter word.